Men with anger issues make the choice to act on their emotions. They may blame their partner for causing the fight, reasoning “if only she had listened,” or “if she just stopped pushing my buttons.” In fact, as a society we have accepted men with bad tempers as a characteristic of being male.
Just think of the temperamental colleague, a boss who yells constantly, or even an athlete throwing a temper tantrum. Making matters worse, is that after a fit has passed, the man feels like he was the victim. He explains to himself and those he hurt as the injustices thrust upon him made him do it.
“Aggression is hostile behaviour and it’s not a way to work through conflict. Aggression feeds agitation, which turns into frustration and can eventually lead to anger. Anger, spewed out through aggression, is an unhealthy coping skill that can have detrimental effects on relationships and even one’s physical health,” explains Raychelle Cassada Lohmann M.S., LPC, and author of The Anger Workbook for Teens.
Prosper Ortega seemed to have it all.
She was a newlywed who had just given birth to her first baby, a boy named Ari who was born on June 16, 2016.
Her husband Aaron Uchitel had shown signs of an abusive personality.
His anger issues and possessive traits made Ortega keep herself isolated from friends and family.
Uchitel was taking court ordered anger management classes after a fight he had with Ortega.
He was charged with simple battery in November 2015 after he attacked Ortega. According to Ortega, Uchitel felt the classes were helping but two weeks after being home with their newborn baby, his violence escalated to something the new mom had never seen nor endured.
Uchitel attempted to leave with the baby, prompting, Ortega to stay to protect the baby.
The man, however, drugged the new mom to keep her weak and confused.
Over four days, Uchitel beat Ortega up.
He poured hot water over her hears so she couldn’t hear her baby cry.